#1 Reason Self Care is Hard
I’ve been running a Self Care series on social the past week or so, and the feedback is so eye-opening!
The #1 response I get about why self care is challenging has to do with WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!!
“My kids will think their activities aren’t important to me”
“My friends don’t get the same opportunities to rejuvenate, they are already so judgmental”
“My spouse doesn’t want me to spend the money on those luxuries”
“My team will think I’m not committed”
Um. HELLO!!!
IT’S CALLED SELF CARE BECAUSE THIS IS YOU CARING FOR YOURSELF.
It’s called SELF 👏CARE👏 because this is YOU CARING for YOURSELF. How did anyone else ever get a vote in that?
And therein lies the rub.
The people that truly understand this are the ones who effortlessly prioritize self care, and as a result, never get to a place where they seem to NEEEED it. They don’t reach a point of depletion that makes the need for self care a raging urgency.
But the ones that are governed by other’s opinions are the one’s that live in such chronic depletion that it becomes their new normal. It’s where we start to take a departure from our own paths in favor of pleasing others. And how we become a shell of ourselves and start to harbor resentment towards others.
This is where The Secret Scorecard begins. We start to note all the times we put our own needs aside to care for others, silently expecting they’ll do the same for us. But when they don’t, we take it personally and start to take it out on others.
Can you see how the lack of self care can create such a gnarly domino effect?
Last week, I talked about The Domino Habit and how choosing one small action can build momentum towards greater results.
If you struggle with Self Care, can I offer a Domino Habit for you? Perhaps the biggest step you can take toward better self care is to DIVORCE YOURSELF FROM OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS. This happens when you believe your inner voice over any one else’s voice. And, at the end of the day, it’s the greatest gesture of self care we can offer!
So, here’s to you and that inner voice that has been calling for you!
